Yes,
its inevitable. You spend so much time together, you can talk about
anything, and you know each others secrets. You buy each other things,
just because I know they'll like that. You're always there for each
other, and are in fact each others default dates to functions when you
couldn't get anyone else. Sooner or later, at least one of you would
fall in love with the other.
We
know its extremely difficult, especially when you really have so much
fun together and admit it he's attractive. But it is possible to not
ever be romantically involved with your male friend. It is usually
advisable to keep things that way, too. So here are a few tips to help
prevent you from crossing the line.
1. Keep in mind that your best friend will always be your best friend.
The mind over matter rule might still work for you, writes Anna
Lorraine Miranda-baysa in How Not To Fall In Love With Your Best Friend.
Forbid yourself from entertaining thoughts of your best friend being
the man you've been waiting for, because you will eventually convince
yourself that he is even if he probably is not. Whenever your mind
wanders dangerously close to that line, give yourself a good, firm
shake.
2. Decide not to be attracted. In
fact, try to feel embarrassed about even considering it. Of course you
became friends because you saw a lot of great qualities in each other
that made you click, that's why its inevitable to feel attracted to each
other. But to avoid falling for his great qualities, humorously think
of his worst traits especially the really weird and gross ones. It
helps, says Anna, who has a male best friend herself.
3. Avoid situations where you are left alone with each other, as this allows a breeding place for passion.
4. Know all the negative consequences falling in love would have on your precious friendship. Crossing
the line could only bring disappointment for both of you and change
your friendship forever. According to Why You Shouldn't Take The Next
Step with Your Best Friend, , whenever you feel yourself falling, ask
yourself these questions: Would he be a suitable match for me? Is there a
future for us? Am I attracted to my best friend sexually? What are my
real reasons? Am I afraid to be alone? Am I willing to risk losing the
friendship? Know that when you risk falling for a friend, you risk not
just getting your heart broken but also ruining one of your most
cherished friendships when things don't work out.
5. Choose to love him as your best friend.
Or as a brother, if you must. Know that you would be willing to do
anything for him, care for him, and love him like a true brother, even
if hes not family. And be comforted that he would do the same for you.
But decide not to throw romantic and sexual thoughts into the equation.
Its a decision, not merely an emotion, writes Anna. Appreciate that rare
solid friendship you have formed with him and keep yourself from losing
it just because of selfish, uncontrolled feelings.
Do you have a male best friend? How did you keep yourself from falling in love with him?