THIS FRIEND

This friend I have,

Means a lot to love

And to be loved,

They are one of a kind,

True and selfless,

I know not their true nature,

Or who they are when I’m not around,

But I do know what counts,

Are all the words we speak in silence,

The hello’s and goodbyes in our eyes,

The laughter and smiles in our closeness,

The sorrow and sadness in our distance,

And this friend knows who I am,

For they know me, and I know them,

And that’s simply enough.

Befado

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A LOVE STORY

If I were to write a love story,

I’d write about us.

If I were to tell a love story,

I’d tell about us.

Of the days we loved each other,

Of the days we sat together,

Of the days I’d look at you and smile,

Of the days we’d walk for a mile,

Of days you sang for me,

Of the nights so cold and lonely,

Of the dreams we shared together,

Of moonlight walks to the border,

Of the laughter we shared,

Of the sorrows we bared,

Of days we cared,

Of days we’d rest in each others arms,

Of days we watched movies hand in hand,

Of days we’d chat till late at night,

Of the eyes that turned me on,

Of the days we wished we could move to our world,

Of days a day was not lived without you,

Of nights I was afraid of the dark without you,

Of the hugs we shared,

Of warm intimate hugs,

Of days we held hands,

Of kisses we shared,

Of days love was all we had,

But promise I did,

Not to tell,

But given a chance,

I would write, I would tell,

A love story,

Our story.

Befado

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HOW NOT TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND

Yes, its inevitable. You spend so much time together, you can talk about anything, and you know each others secrets. You buy each other things, just because I know they'll like that. You're always there for each other, and are in fact each others default dates to functions when you couldn't get anyone else. Sooner or later, at least one of you would fall in love with the other.

We know its extremely difficult, especially when you really have so much fun together and admit it he's attractive. But it is possible to not ever be romantically involved with your male friend. It is usually advisable to keep things that way, too. So here are a few tips to help prevent you from crossing the line.

1. Keep in mind that your best friend will always be your best friend. The mind over matter rule might still work for you, writes Anna Lorraine Miranda-baysa in How Not To Fall In Love With Your Best Friend. Forbid yourself from entertaining thoughts of your best friend being the man you've been waiting for, because you will eventually convince yourself that he is even if he probably is not. Whenever your mind wanders dangerously close to that line, give yourself a good, firm shake.

2. Decide not to be attracted. In fact, try to feel embarrassed about even considering it. Of course you became friends because you saw a lot of great qualities in each other that made you click, that's why its inevitable to feel attracted to each other. But to avoid falling for his great qualities, humorously think of his worst traits especially the really weird and gross ones. It helps, says Anna, who has a male best friend herself.

3. Avoid situations where you are left alone with each other, as this allows a breeding place for passion.

4. Know all the negative consequences falling in love would have on your precious friendship. Crossing the line could only bring disappointment for both of you and change your friendship forever. According to Why You Shouldn't Take The Next Step with Your Best Friend, , whenever you feel yourself falling, ask yourself these questions: Would he be a suitable match for me? Is there a future for us? Am I attracted to my best friend sexually? What are my real reasons? Am I afraid to be alone? Am I willing to risk losing the friendship? Know that when you risk falling for a friend, you risk not just getting your heart broken but also ruining one of your most cherished friendships when things don't work out.

5. Choose to love him as your best friend. Or as a brother, if you must. Know that you would be willing to do anything for him, care for him, and love him like a true brother, even if hes not family. And be comforted that he would do the same for you. But decide not to throw romantic and sexual thoughts into the equation. Its a decision, not merely an emotion, writes Anna. Appreciate that rare solid friendship you have formed with him and keep yourself from losing it just because of selfish, uncontrolled feelings.

Do you have a male best friend? How did you keep yourself from falling in love with him?

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